When to Use It

• Use your elevator speech anytime you are networking. It can be more casual if you’re talking one-on-one and more formal if you’re introducing yourself in a group.
• Use it in an interview. The elevator speech is shorthand for how you respond to questions such as, Tell me about yourself,” and “Why should I hire you?”
• Use your elevator speech in cold calls to employers-for example, when leaving a voice-mail message for a hiring manager.

Note: A great elevator speech makes a lasting first impression, showcases your professionalism and allows you to position yourself.

Tips for Developing Your Speech

1. Most important, think in terms of the benefits your clients or customers derive from your services. People are more interested in how you can help them.
2. Write out your speech if that helps, then practice without reading or memorizing it. Aim for spontaneity allowing your speech to go off your tongue with ease.
3. Practice with friends or family, or in front of a mirror. Answer these questions: Do you sound confident? Sincere? Is it engaging? Tweak accordingly. Remember you are going for a hook.
4. If appropriate ask for actions, such as asking for a business card or an interview appointment.

Key Elements
Who are You?
What do you do best?
How have you made an impact?
What sets you apart from the competition?
What are you seeking?

The Listener’s unspoken question is: “Why should I do Business with you?”

Again, I reiterate confidence: Here is a great example:
Harry Truman, a great president during his bid for presidency in 1948 did not seem to have a chance to win against Thomas Dewey. During the campaign his confidence was seen when Truman asked a man in the crowd how he intended to vote. “Mr. Truman I would not vote for you if you were the last man on the ballot.” Truman turned to an aide and said “Put him down as doubtful.” “Great leaders are confident”

Go out and knock their socks off with your speech, 

that Great Opportuity is out There!!

Don’t forget to let me know how this works for you!!                                                         

Your Coach, Ouida

VISION     Part II
Passion Exercise

Daniel and His Friends say NO!
Meshach, Shadrach, and Abed-nego were told to fall down and worship a foreign god or burn to death by fire. They told the king, “Our God whom we serve is able to deliver us and He will deliver us from your hand.”

The kings response was to heat the fire seven times hotter and the children were thrown in.

The king himself said,” there is a fourth in the fire and he “Looks like a Son of God.” The meaning of this is (God with Us) a reflection of the new testament Emanuel, Matthew 1:23.

Wisdom of God vs Wisdom of man
It is no doubt that these young men were directed by God’s wisdom. They picked their battles and knew when to say, No.

As a young girl IQ testing was popular and a lot was said about and attention given to the boy or girl who had the high I. Q.’s. I was never told anything so you know how I thought about myself and how smart I was.

As I am a bit older and wiser I have since recognized that the people with the highest I.Q’s are worse at relationships and daily living. They do not always have success in the job market or necessary make more money than the next person. Only 20% of success was built on I.Q., but 80% on other factors.

It was the wisdom of God that kept the four men not only alive but helped them assimilate into the culture and led them to success.

This kind of wisdom can only be found on the basis of a relationship with God.

God gives us wisdom to motivate us and moves us through the frustrations of life. It is those very frustrations that steal our passions and dreams. God will use you to display His wisdom and help you keep the passion of the plans He has ordained for you.

Remember we are still talking about obstacles that steal your passion for vision of your life. It was not Daniel’s heritage that gave him wisdom, it was not his looks, not the Babylonian college he attended for three years, it wasn’t his new culture or any of his own abilities.

It was the wisdom of God that gave him the interpretation of Nebuchadnezzar’s dream and the ability to stand before the king. It was the wisdom of God that gave him the interpretation of the writing on the wall, which ended the king of Babylon’s empire that was defeated by Persia.

You maybe saying today, “You do not know what I’m going through.” I would say to you, Emanuel (God is with you).

Daniel tells us the young Hebrew men came out of the fire and did not smell like fire, nor were they scorched or singed.

Pray for God’s wisdom to overcome your situation today. You have Godly wisdom that others do not have.

Conclusion: God wants us to be passionate about first our relationship with him (which gives us wisdom) and then passionate about the vision (plan of life he has given you)

AN EXERCISE FOR FINDING YOUR PASSION

1. Ask someone who knows you well to identify your passions.
2. Think of times in your life when you felt exuberant and excited to be alive.
3. When you were young and your parents could not find you, what did they assume you were doing?
4. If you had no limitations in terms of money or time, what would you like to do?
5. Look at your environment. Does this reveal what really interests and excites you?
6. Search the Scriptures, wait, and pray that God will reveal His passion for your life.

What might these questions say about your passion?

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VISION     Part I

Where there is no vision the people are unrestrained
(or perish) but happy is he who keeps the law.
                                                     Proverbs 29:18 NAS

When people do not accept divine guidance they run wild.
But whoever obeys the law is joyful.
                                        Prov. 29:18 NLT

Vision leads the leader. It paints the target.
It sparks and fuels the fire within. Show me a leader
without vision and I’ll show you someone
who isn’t going anywhere
John Maxwell

We all need a plan for our lives; a plan directed by God. When we talk about vision we must talk about passion which is the emotional force that invigorates our lives. At the core of every vision is Passion.

Passion is a powerful underlying emotion that energizes and drives you.
Passion can be seen in ardent love, deep compassion, or boundless enthusiasm. If you have passion it strikes a cord in you. It heightens your awareness, engages your attention.

Simple: What fires you UP! What motivates YOU?

It is your passion that ignites other People (other people get excited when you get excited). It is passion that closes that sale or brings that speaker to excitement that motivates his/her audience.

My son in law had hoped to make a million dollars before he was 30 years old. Many big dreams are stolen away by obstacles of life that come into our paths. These obstacles steal our energy and cause road blocks that keep us from fulfilling our dreams.

As our energy dwindles so does passion and we even give up on our visions The initial excitement calms and we sometimes think of ourselves as failures.

In this article I would like to address some of those obstacles or road blocks that keeps us stuck and steals our passions and vision.

Like Vision, passion tends to fade.
Both need frequent rekindling.

The story of Daniel reminds us of our own struggles and sense of identity in a modern secular world. If you think of it America was like Babylon in Daniel’s day and in the days of Jesus, Rome was like America. Daniel and Jesus were and are two famous proven men of history.

As Daniel and Jesus did, we live in a toxic culture; a toxic culture that many times stands at odds with our faith. We daily rub shoulders with atheists and agnostics. We are in a cultural war that clash with our values. Daily there is a wedge against family values, popular media, electoral policy, law, etc.,.

Daniel takes a stand against culture but yet endures assimilation. Daniel shows us multiple ways to be a believer in an unbelieving world. “In the world but not of the world.”

Success was given to Daniel, his friends and even to the third person in charge of the great empire of Babylon.

As we look at the first chapter of Daniel we see that Daniel and his three Hebrew friends were taken captive from Judah and taken to Babylon.

The criteria of choices were; Daniel and His three Hebrew friends were boys of nobility (probably nobles for King Hezekiah of Judah). Babylon wanted only the smartest and most intelligent. They had to have no physical defects and be muscular. (I’m sure the muscular six pack of today would have met the criteria). Also, they had to be full bearded with curly thick hair.

As you see the criteria hasn’t changed much: wealth, looks, intelligence and notability in society. These are obstacles that our culture tells us that we have to present like, act like and be. If we do not meet this criteria how can we succeed! These cultural rules are a lie and cause us to lose our passion and vision.

Once the captives were in Babylon they were indoctrinated and trained in language, literature, astrology and more than likely trained in all the arts of divination because divination was a learned practice of Babylon. History tells us they learned to interpret dreams, causes of diseases, unusual births (birth defects) and the meaning of flight patterns of birds. I’m almost sure they Graduated Summa Cum Laude because they were not destroyed.

The Hebrew boys had name changes. Daniel’s Hebrew name means, God is my judge. His new name was associated with one of the Babylonian gods. Not only name changes and cultural changes, but possibly their gender was erased.

All of these things remind us of the assimilations of today; they can all be very subtle.

Don”t forget to look for part II (Questions to help you find Your Passion)

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10 top Ways to Know You Are Stressed
1.  Your checking account is overdrawn
2.  At least one person has called you a Grinch today
3.  You have bruises from elbowing people out of line at the mall
4.  You still have change in your pocket because you refused to give it to that irritating bell ringer
5.  You’ve said, Bah! Humbug! Today!
6.  You have eaten an entire chocolate snowman to help you get through your day
7.  You yelled at someone while racing for a parking spot.
8.  You are on the preferred debtors list of your credit card company.
9.  You got a ticket on the way to the mall trying to get to the best sales
10. There’s no room in your inn for the Holy Family

• How to Survive
  •Get plenty of sleep to have energy to meet each day
  •Forgive yourself and others
  •Express your feelings and share your stress. In return offer to be a good listener.
  •Prioritize. Know your limits and practice saying “NO”
  •Keep a perspective on your areas of responsibility. Allow others to be responsible for their needs and feelings.
  •Pay more attention to how you think and feel and less on how you look
  •Incorporate daily routine into your holiday schedule
  •Increase your intake of fruits, vegetables and whole-grains
  •Decrease the amount of sugar, sodium and fatty foods
  •Exercise at least 3 times a week for 20-30 minutes
  •Set aside time for yourself. Do something you enjoy at least once a week
  •Tendencies are to overspend. Remember your ‘presence’ in the home is far more important than ‘presents’ under the tree
  •Keep expectations of your holiday experience to a minimum in order to avoid a big holiday let down
  •Do plan holiday activities that will be enjoyable for the whole family; buying the tree, trimming the tree, attending church, and civic events such as plays, concerts and displays.

Above all:
A great Proverb, Laughter is like a medicine.
Keep your good humor and keep it simple.

Have a Blessed Holiday

What makes you ANGRY?

Relevant questions for feeling anger:

• Do you put others before yourself?
• Do you feel good about putting others before yourself?
• Does that same person or persons begin to take you for granted?
• Do you feel as if you have been treated like a doormat or taken advantage of.?
• Do you feel like you are not being heard by the very same person you practically laid your life down for?

Ask yourself:

• Why does that person’s acceptance means so much to you?
•  How far have I gone to make that person like me?
• Did I feel rejection from this relationship? 
• Have you ever stopped to think that you are letting someone’s behavior control or effect your behavior.
•  Does this make you real angry? 

Sometime we get so angry that we spend a lot of time trying to control our own inferior feelings by controlling how others think or feel about us.  

Even though you feel rejected and disapproved did you ever think that you are trying to control others so you can feel better about yourself?  We actually let others behavior control our own behavior.  In my book “Restoring The Broken Hearted”, this behavior is called codependency.

The subconscious thought of a codependent person is, “If I can control those around me, I won’t get hurt and I won’t have to feel bad about myself because I did a good job.”  However the codependent does not consciously think they are trying to control anyone. They see it as trying to be good, trying to help or fix whatever is “wrong” or “out of place.” 

One reason this destructive behavior does not seem so destructive is because most people view the behavior as being virtuous.  The codependent is viewed as unselfish, the perfect housewife and homemaker.  This “super mom” is on the phone solving everyone’s problems and always or nearly always says yes when asked to volunteer for a cause.

Although this person may appear to be loving, be at peace and happy, they usually harbor an incredible amount of anger and pain inside because they think they are supposed to rescue, help and be the all answers to everyone’s problems, but can’t. 

How can we tell when we are in codependency.  ARE YOU ANGRY? Let’s start with your anger.  Can you trace the anger back to trying to rescue or help someone and it did not work out (look back at examples mentioned above).

If you are not angry have you moved to the next stage?  Do you feel like a VICTIM?  (Nobody likes me, everybody hates me, I’m going to the garden and eat worms),   These are all signs of depression (anger turned inward to yourself). 

Now the state of beating oneself up begins for the codependent.  There seems to be no way out and no place to turn.  The codependent will then find someone else or some project and begin the cycle again.  They will end up going around and around in the same circle to the same end.  They once again, will find themselves angry and then feeling like the one who needs the help, the victim.

Note the triangulation of the feelings one has when in this state.  The feelings move from wanting to reach out and help, no one acknowledges your help and you move to Anger.  From anger you move to the victim or feeling worthlessness.

Review of feelings when moving through the triangle of anger:

• Helping others
• Anger
• Victim (worthlessness)

The most important ingredient is to not to base who you are on what others think about you.  To do this, “new boundaries” need to be established with relationships.  This is not an easy thing to do because these are behaviors that must be unlearned and to form new healthier behaviors.

My personal journey began by reading what the Bible said about me.  This helped me know that I was a worthwhile person who did not have to try to please and change the world.

The most important thing is to first evaluate who you are and that you are a worthwhile person and made to accomplish great things on this earth.  “Remember, You are ‘One of a Kind’ and have great value and a purpose on this earth and it is not trying to change or control others but change yourself!

Next article will be Anger Number 2 and more on Control.

To learn more please write me your comments or questions.

WHY are you so angry? Are you angry about Job loss, salary cut, your wife/husband, children, or mother-in-law? Maybe it is the nation’s political agenda or the war in Iraq or perhaps the Afghan war. Is it the Taliban? Perhaps you have had to address illnesses or injury of yourself or a loved one. Maybe you have had to declare bankruptcy. Is your favorite sport team in last place?

Whether it is money, issues of life, relationships or personal, (like your plastic surgery did not work the way you intended, ha!).

Whether it is road rage or people yelling at one another in the check out lines. It seems to me anger has heightened this year.

Lately there are a lot of angry people. Yes, there seems to be a lot to be angry about. Well, we cannot solve all the world problems but we can begin small. Let’s begin with learning about anger and it’s relation to stress.

We might ask, how does anger come about? Anger is an excited response and is generated by a real or perceived injury. This perceived event is accompanied by a desire to take vengeance or obtain satisfaction from the offending party.

Let me explain in simple terms my simple story:

As I was going to a doctor’s appointment on Friday, I was running ten minutes late and not traveling the speed limit, (at times). I was anxious that the office might cancel my appointment, (real or perceived injury). After all I had waited for a long time for this appointment and my every day prescriptions were about to expire.

As I came to a red light (it is okay to make a right turn on a red in Fla.) I proceded to do so. Oh, I forgot to mention, when I made this right I pulled out in front of a not so nice young man, who you would have thought would have let this nice older women in.

Needless to say, he did not let me in. I had to stay in the right lane which was a turn lane. “I did not want to turn!” but had to anyway. I then had to make a U turn to come back on the highway to go to my designation.

Well now who was in front of me but the not so nice young man who would not let me in. I took all my vengeance out on him, only in my mind of course, but what I had to say to him was not very nice.

My satisfaction could have come about when he pulled into the same office I was going to. He parked his car, I saw HIM, I knew where his car was! Now, I was 15 minutes late. I seriously thought about flattening his tires. The thought shocked me, since I perceive myself a nice person (maybe not). This would at that time given me great satisfaction. Oh well, I was already late, maybe next time.

To finish off the story, the office let me in anyway. All my rush, anger and vengeance was all for nothing. I must however remember to tell my grandsons who looked something like that young not so nice man, that they should treat older nice ladies in traffic with respect.

Stress causes us to get angry. Being late, hurrying to designation and traffic are all stressors that cause’s us to be stressed and angry.

When looking at anger we must see it as for what it is. It is not the primary emotion. The primary emotions are usually either, fear, hurt or frustration or could be all three. In my case it was frustration of not being somewhere on time and having to pay the consequences. We never like consequences for our behavior.

To sum up this episode, I was fearful of the consequences of a late appointment, I became frustrated with the traffic and then a little hurt that this not so nice young man could possible kill me. I was angry and I allowed my not so nice thoughts to occur, (vengeance).

If I really get to the core, how could I have avoided all this stress?
There is one simple answer. Leave home earlier! This would have avoided all the anger thoughts (which are stressors) the stress of speeding and the fear of retaliation from my doctor’s office.

Stress and anger are closely related. Do you know that stress comes from everywhere and things that we do not consider stressors can cause us stress and increased anger.

Let’s begin to work on Stressors that we take for Granted
• Driving on busy freeways
• Noise from your teenager’s stereo system
• Living near noisy freeways or train lines
• Loneliness
• Complaining neighbors
• Bad lighting at work or home
• Bad time management?
• Always being late for appointments
• Too many deadlines
• Dogs that bark in the night

Can I challenge you to work on at least one of these stressors, this week? Reducing just one stressor will help lower your anger response for a better, healthier longer life?

Closing Thought: James a New Testament writer and brother of Jesus wrote;
Be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. Your anger can never make things right in God’s sight

If this article was helpful to you please make a comment below so that you may encourage others or email me for answers to your questions.

Anger is not always wrong.  To quote the Bible, “be angry and sin not” so you may ask what anger is right and what anger is wrong.  In this article the discussion will be the reason anger is not wrong however it can become wrong when it hurts you or someone else.

The truth is there are no damaging or destructive emotions. Our emotional makeup is totally from God.  He made us and all our emotions.  When these emotions are used correctly and constructively (in accordance with biblical principles) they produce healing and health to ourselves and to others around us.  Anger (notice, anger not rage) is not wrong when used to communicate ones feelings in a reaction to another’s behavior.

Jesus did not damage His body when He expressed Himself in anger to the money changers.  This anger (John 2:17) motivated him to drive out the money changers from the house of God.  We must realize anger is nothing more than energy.  Will we as the ‘Pressure Cooker’ article indicated allow pressure and stress to mount until we explode (throwing away our energy) or we might say (giving away our energy) or will we use the energy for good and productive feelings and communication? Will we use our energy for production or destruction?

Anger can become Harmful

As we began the article we quoted Paul the apostle who said it is okay to be angry but he gave us another warning “and sin not”. Right anger can become wrong anger and we will discus two ways: exploding (ventilation) or internalization (clamming up).  Both of these are wrong because again they cause damage to oneself or others.

These are two opposite extremes when one blows up the energies are aimed and fired at someone else.  If one clams up the tense energies are released within oneself.  Each one causes destruction to self.  In both cases the emotional energies of anger go to waste.  Both of these responses are wrong.

Look at the example below:

1. The circle at the top represents the issue over which the argument began.
2. The emotional energy fails to solve the problem because the energy is aimed at one another not the issue.
3. One explodes (blows up)
4. The other internalizes and anger is released on one’s self.

Exploding is aimed at hurting others but it also hurts the exploder.  This kind of venting can cause loss of loved ones or destroyed relationships because they are being pushed away.  While clamming up projects negative emotional energy against one’s own self, injuring his own body.  Many times resulting in tension, irritability and even illnesses.  If one will not talk they are not very good company to be around they may become isolated from others

Most importantly it should be recognized that we have choices. We have choices to use our energy constructively or we can throw it away?  In this time and day of few choices in our lives it seems we need to work on getting this one right.  In the counseling room a come back to the issue discussed was, “She or He makes me so angry,” The truth is no one can make you do or be anything you really do not want to be or do.   The energy is yours to choose.

These changes are not easy to make because there seems to be a lot to be angry about these days.  However all things are possible, but that is for another blogging session.

Next posting will be “More on conquering these two wrongs of handling ANGER

If this article helped you in anyway or you have a comment to make please respond below.”

Dr. Walsh

Pressure Cooker Anger

We are told by the experts that one out of five Americans has an anger management problem.  I would suggest in my years of counseling and the crisis of the times the number has greatly increased.  That means there are an awful lot of us with anger issues.  The failure to manage anger is a major cause of conflict in our personal and professional relationships.

Today I want to address Pressure Cooker Anger. Pressure cooking is a method of cooking in a sealed vessel that does not permit air or liquids to escape below a preset pressure.  Heat is applied and the boiling point of water increases, thus the pressure increases. As the pressure builds up inside the cooker the pressure is released and the regulator on the nozzle rocks gently however if more heat is added the pressure becomes greater.  The regulator rocks faster and faster as the pressure builds.  If the pressure is too great there could be a huge blow up.  I was told this as a child, so it must be true.  I heard many times, “Don’t go near the pressure cooker.”

This pressure cooker example is what happens to us. We can only suppress issues or have so much pressure applied before an eruption happens. After the eruption there is great deal of regret from these outbursts.  Because we do not like our anger we try to hold it inside, like the pressure cooker until all the hot angry air is released. 

 “Don’t go near the pressure cooker”, was good advice and a great warning.  We all try to avoid the angry person who is about to explode.  Who wants to be around angry people? 

As a child I tried to avoid the anger in my home however I soon found that somehow I had caught it.  I really had not avoided it at all, not only was I often the target, I became hyper-alert to anger.  Children are always on the alert for angry parents or role models.  

I think you get the point of pressure cooker anger so lets discuss a few easy anger management exercises:

We must first look at scripture from the bible.  Anger is a normal and natural emotion.   The Apostle Paul tells us in Ephesians 4:26 , 31.  “Be angry, and yet do not sin.”

1.      The, Yet do not sin, is the hard part. He also tells us, “do not let the sun go down on your anger.”  Paul knew that anger could produce action, action of words or behavior that could cause harm and emotional pain.  This is where he warns us to put on Christ action.  In scripture we see Jesus was angry but he expressed and acted correctly. We must learn and relearn to do what is right in each situation.                                                                               

2.      Paul also states, don’t go to bed mad.  Forgive!  Get it right. Ask for forgiveness.  This is one of the hardest things for some of us to learn to do, but the most rewarding.  I had to ask help from the Holy Spirit.

3.      Ask the Holy Spirit to help you refrain from retaliation and to help you to respond with mercy.  Jesus tells us, “I will send you a Helper who will teach you all things.”  John 14:36

4.      Anger arises when you don’t feel loved or accepted (perhaps you are feeling rejected).  Just knowing this you can begin to explore why you feel the way you do.  It is important to recognize that there may never be a person that will make you feel accepted.  The only one that will accept you unconditionally is your Father (your savior) Jesus Christ, 1Thessolonians 1:4 tells you that: God chose you and that you are dearly beloved by God.

5.      Break the blame game, perhaps you can reach out to that person you are blaming.  Are you are expecting them to make you feel better?  Reverse the situation by reaching out and make them feel accepted and loved.  Ask them, what is upsetting you? Or just listen.

I have given you five exercises today. If these have helped you refrain from retaliating and responding in mercy will you please write to encourage others in overcoming anger.  Share your story in the box below.

In harsh times, preventing depression is even more crucial

According to the World Heath Organization depression is the No.1 health problem in the world; it is universal and it is not going away. As a trained Registered Nurse, Certified Counselor for 15 years and now Coach, I have seen people in depression that has caused peoples lives to be totally paralyzed.

In such times as this with lost jobs, retirement, investments, homes and many lost dreams more people are at risk for depression. Reactive depression occurs because of losses, stressors and disappointments in our lives. Many times depression is like the elephant in the room an obvious truth often ignored or unaddressed.

Ask yourself or your loved ones two questions:

• Have you felt down in the last two weeks, blue or sad?
• Have you lost interest in the things that interest you in the last two weeks?

If you get a yes, ask have you thought of hurting yourself in anyway?

If the answer is yes, they must see a doctor or counselor at once. A 911 call to a local hotline is not out of order for additional information.

Some subtle signs:

Changes in behavior

Losing weight

Turning down social engagements

Losing interest in hobbies

Increase in alcohol or drug use

Stop taking prescribed medications correctly

Poor hygiene of dress

Talking about suicide

The problems lie in thought patterns and there are many wonderful antidepressant therapies today that give hope and encouragement.

Medical: Please contact your physician or counselor for these aids

Groups: Over 5 million people participate in self-help groups each year and it is free.

Spiritual Meditation: I cannot emphasize enough having Christ in your life. He is to become not only one’s Savior but one’s best friend. Through all these combined techniques placing one’s future in Christ, many client find help and hope for dealing with depression.

In my counseling experience I tried to expose my clients to all three of these areas.

Remember, you are valuable and there is only one designed like you. You are special and one of a kind. Wonderfully made!

Remember Suicide is not an option!

Additional surveys for depression: www.helpguide.org/mental/depression

People of Vision have a clearer direction of where they want to go.

Vision leads the leader. It paints the target.

It sparks and fuels the fire within. Show me a leader

without vision and I’ll show you someone

who isn’t going anywhere.

John Maxwell

Disney World was not completed till after the death of Mr. Walt Disney. Many said what a shame he was never able to see the completion of his vision. Mike Vance, Creative director of Disney Studios replied, “He did see it-that’s why it is here.”

Joshua and Caleb were described in the last posting. Joshua was a strong successful leader. When the two of them reached their goal of the promised land there was no one in their age group because they they did not have the trust do go into the land. They believed the negative report and were unable to catch the vision and died.

After the death of those who could not get the vision Joshua and Caleb kept confronting the younger nation with a God given vision of the promised land and their future. The result was that the younger generation believed and were able to move forward into the promises;they caught the vision God had given.

We all need a mental picture of where we are going.

Let me ask you this question.

What are you envisioning for your life?

Your Coach

Dr. Ouida